Tuesday, August 30, 2011

being a mom.

I recently sat down with a friend who is a few years older than me
she was telling me about she has been running into friends that just got there masters & have these awesome jobs
& when they asked her what she has been up to
& she said she was embarrassed cause all she can say is "i had bella"
{let me just take a second to say she has been thru so much by having bella at 24 weeks}
& it seriously broke my heart
she saying with sadness to me how all she is, is a mom

& then just litterly just about a half hour ago
ran into a girl I went to high school with
& was telling me she graduated from her 4 years at Purdue 
{UCK, PU! becky you will like that one ;)}
& was now working with the giraffes at the local zoo, she "has the best job ever"
& i was "just being a mom right"

which got me thinking.. when did being a mom be so not a accomplishment?
not that being a working mom isn't
but when did "just being a mom"
be looked down upon, like that is ALL you do?

maybe its just because all I ever wanted to be was momma
I went to college but it just wasn't for me
I got my CDA, instead of my degree in early childhood development
which I barely got by getting since i had recently started dating Brandon & that was much more fun haha
maybe that makes me "unaccomplished" or a "loser"

but I got married to the love of my life
bought my amazing childhood home
conquered the impossible & got pregnant
then I stayed pregnant, being unbelievably sick
& laid in bed hooked up to a pump & IV for over 2 months
then I had a healthy beautiful little girl
& am taking care of her, my husband & home 
not to mention my annoying 3 dogs
{not in that order ;) }
to me that is a pretty big accomplishment

I love my photography business 
I am SO blessed to be able to do what I love all the while still being able to be home doing the one thing in life i truly believe i was placed on this earth to be...
...A MOM

I don't know if it is the stigma of those reality shows i can't seem to miss every week night
the full-time nannies
or the supercute kids that do nothing wrong
or the teen mom episodes that say HEY Maci is like 12 & does it 

But being a momma is hard.

So when someone asks me what I have done since highschool
I have started a family, a truly beautiful family
I may  not have a piece of paper with a degree on it
but i get sloppy kisses, bites on my nose, "mommas" & instant smiles followed by arms up in the air dying to be picked up whenever i walk into a room

& that my friends
is all i need.


  1. That is how I feel. I want to be a mom and a homemaker--always have. Unfortunately due to financial reasons, I will have to go back to work after I have my baby boy in November which BREAKS my heart. But you can't tell a mom she hasn't accomplished anything. She's accomplished the greatest thing of all.

  2. Beautiful post.

    I couldn't agree with you more on everything you said. Being a mom IS a full time job, and it is one that we ALL should be proud of. Even if we are working as well or not. Being a mom trumps anything else.

    And I especially love the YUCK PURDUE. hahaha. cracked me up. nice little shout out :)

    and of course, i adore ALL the pics!

  3. All I can say is "Amen"! You took the words right out of my mouth! GREAT post and I love all the pictures.

  4. heck yeah gf... you took the words out of my mouth!

    Being a mom is the best... period :)

  5. Hey! I am new to your blog from "Mrs. to Mama" and this post pretty much had me in tears. I am in the same boat... seriously, who cares how much you make when you have someone who NEEDS you to survive. Ugh, moms are not given enough credit, ever!

    Your daughter is beautiful!

  6. I think being a mom is the biggest accomplishment I have ever done.
    and I went to college (who cares)
    I have a full time job (who cares)
    nothing compares to being a mom! I love it and I'm proud of it.

  7. Tara,
    I love the pictures you posted! You daughter is absolutely beautiful, and even though I am not yet a mother, I know that is truly in a full-time job. Keep being an awesome mother!

  8. Well, I have a degree, and all I can say is, I still believe my greatest accomplishment is raising Paityn! Everything else pales in comparison to that. Yeah, I have my job, but long after that is over, my daughter will still be here, and she'll still be my daughter. A job will always and forever be "just a job." My daughter is my greatest accomplishment, my best investment, and the thing of worth I will leave behind me after I've left this world.

    I love your blog! Newest follower. :)


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-tara :)


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